Skeptic Spirit

 

Rose Rosetree is perhaps one of the most referred to writers on empathy for empaths. I have not read any of her books yet, but I am afraid I am going to do so in the future, when I have more money than I want.

Today I am going to comment on one of her articles bit by bit, because it so well represents many of my… ehm… difficulties with the self proclaimed experts on this subject. Again, I have nothing against her personally. But whenever someone is offering advice for money, there should be some kind of validation of the advice. And since we cannot validate anything written on this subject, it is only fair that we at least can question the advice given. 

Now, I am not able to question the advice before I pay for it, so instead I will question the article leading to buy the book in which the advice is found. And maybe that could count for something. I will quote the areas I find the need to comment. It is most of the article, but follow the link above for the full picture.

How Hard Is It To Become A Skilled Empath? 
by Rose Rosetree, the Official Guide To Aura

This is just the headline. First of all she determines, that there is such a thing called a ’skilled empath’. What she really means (you find out later) is that a ’skilled empath’ is someone who can turn off the empathy and turn it on again. In fact, I could rephrase this whole article in a couple of lines going something like this:

“How hard is it to turn on and off the empathy? Buy my book to find out!”

But that wouldn’t sell much, would it? So we have to do this the hard way and go through the whole article to find out. We will, then.

Somewhere between “too easy” and “too hard” lies the truth. Yet consistently I find empaths who don’t understand what is involved in becoming a skilled empath.

First of all, who decides what the truth is? If you have found the truth, meaning it is not your truth, why do you make money on the countless of empaths who have not seen it yet? You need to be consistent. Either you sell your truth, or you share the truth. If you have to call it the truth, then you are not supposed to make money on it, that is just a matter of good ethics in my opinion. 

Secondly, maybe if you just called it “learn how to switch it on/off”, it wouldn’t cause that much confusion?

Consequently, they try too hard, making life way more complicated than it needs to be. Or else they assume that the skills needed are way too easy.

Who can blame them for thinking this way? Apparently, it is way to difficult to explain how to turn it on/off in an article, you need to by the “Official” book in order to get that answer. But at the same time, you yourself have become some kind of empath guru based on… ehm… Hm? So I guess, it is obvious that people will have the idea that it is either too easy or too hard.

Moving along to the aura photos… If it is in a picture, it must be trustworthy! 

The first shows me after doing an empathic merge as a skilled empath. My partner for this exercise, Hyun Martin, has studied spiritual practices for many years. (That includes studying with me to become a skilled empath.)

Oh, so she herself has studied in order to learn how to turn it on and off. Of course she should make money on it then. I mean, I have found a way of doing that too, but I can’t really say I “studied” it. But of course, I mean, if she really has been sitting with her face in books for several years (which books, by the way?), practicing to the middle of the night with her spiritual partner in order to just know the truth about how to turn the ability on/off, then she should make money on it. 

It’s fascinating to use aura photos to document empath-merges. A skilled empath can shift from being herself/himself to directly experiencing what it is like to be someone else. 

Yes, it is fascinating, that some people actually use aura photos for any kind of documentation. If you want to read more about the skeptical view on aura photos, you can do so here. He says it so much better than I could ever do.

That’s when you turn your gifts ON purposely, using a dedicated technique like those taught in my how-to book, “Empowered by Empathy.”

Which you of course will have to pay for.

Aura photo comparisons like these demonstrate that empath-merges are real. To change your aura to the extent that it brings up completely different colors and structures is a big deal.

No, actually the “big deal” is to have a second aura photo taken that is the same as the first. The colors change randomly, that is one of the main reasons, science can’t take it seriously.

Of course, empath-merges are also huge fun and a deep way to learn about others, for your greater wisdom and also for service. If you’re an empath who studies healing, for the sake of helping others, it’s especially important for you to become a skilled empath.

Yes, I could imagine some difficulties in taking money for something you have no control over. But then again, people take money for all sorts of useless stuff, so it can’t really be that different. Oh, I’m sorry, you where talking about helping people! That is just like your book, I mean, that is also just to help empaths, so… Yeah…

Yet the bigger need of any empath is to learn how to turn your gift(s) OFF most of the time. And that’s where unskilled empaths tend to do either too little or too much, producing fewer results than they know either way.

If you’ve been struggling with being “too sensitive” or “taking on other people’s pain” be sure to read what follows. Can you find yourself here? 

No! But maybe I am so unskilled, that I just don’t know that I belong in one of those categories. I must be in either of these, right? I mean, how do you really define being “too sensitive”?

DOING TOO MUCH
Many an unskilled empath is in the masonry business without knowing it. I’m talking WALLS, WALLS, WALLS.
It’s common advice, isn’t it? You may have tried one of these versions of putting up walls:

•Toughen up.
•Don’t show others how sensitive you are.
•For crying out loud, don’t let people get to you!
•Choose a sophisticated image for yourself and project THAT.
•Swirl protective white light around you, to separate yourself from others.
•Make the visualized white light around you extra fancy by giving it mirrors, so naughty energies will bounce back to hurt the naughty people who send it. Now that’s protection!
•Imagine a protective wall around you.
•Imagine or visualize a facade. The thicker the facade, the better your protection.
•Imagine a cute little glass case over your head, something that could be used in a deli to display sample cubes of cheese.

Just joking about that last one.

Why where you joking about the last one? It really is just the same, isn’t it? But I have to agree with Rose Rosetree on the matter of shielding and visualizing stuff – we can agree, that it is a wrong approach. However, I can’t judge whether or not we are on the same side in terms of turning it on/off. But she can read mine, for free, and tell me if she agrees. 

Walls NEVER keep out STUFF. They just help the empath feel that he/she is doing something useful. But this is a kind of busywork with a nasty side effect. It makes it hard for other people to get to know you.

I agree again! Wow, this is almost a spiritual experience! 

DOING TOO LITTLE
At the extreme opposite of effort, unskilled empaths sometimes expect all they need is one smart little bit of advice, something like Heloise Hints for the Soul.

And it would be so bad for business if you were to give it to them. But no worries, you won’t. I have cut out a part, describing the easy way out. I have no comments on that, I find it a bit irrelevant.

Taking this easy way out is a prime example of doing too little. Instead, consider a session of emotional and spiritual healing with a skilled practitioner.

This just means someone who has learned the truth about how to turn on/off the gift, and who takes money for it.

Second, you need to know that becoming a skilled empath is… a skill! It’s like learning to drive a car. How much help will it be for someone to tell you:

“All you need do is turn the key in the ignition, pull up the brake, put the car into gear, drive, avoid killing yourself, and then stop driving when you’re finished.”

You wouldn’t dream of considering words like these sufficient instruction for you to now get beyond that potentially deadly ton of metal and drive it. 

Yet many hopeful empaths-in-waiting figure that they can do the equivalent to become skilled empaths.

I believe, this is the argument for why we should all buy your book. This justifies making money on something which in my opinion should be open source. The comparison between learning how to switch the empathy on/off with taking a drivers license is brilliant. Who would have thought, that I am actually putting myself in great danger by not having “learned” it the right way. Not to mention those innocent victims I may or may not have inflicted with my deadly advice.

Instead of comparing it to getting a drivers license, why don’t we compare it to a dark room. You know, that there is a lamp in the room. You know, that you should be able to turn this lamp on and off. You have found the switch, but you are unable to read the manual for it, as you are still in the dark. Someone is standing right next to you, someone who by accident one day found out how to switch the lamp on and off. Someone who knows, how simple it is. 

Should this person charge money from you, before she lets you know how to use the switch?  

People search for an answer. They don’t care if it is simple or difficult, they just want to know. You claim to know. And I will not argue that, it may be true. I too know how to switch it on/off, and it is fairly simple. It does take practice, I agree, but that something we all have to do on our own. The answer itself is easy. 

You argue that people will have to (buy and) read an entire book in order to really be skilled. Maybe you just need an entire book to explain something, that really is that simple? 

Do not underestimate people. You are playing with the need for answers and it does give you a profit. You could, I mean you really could, give people the answers on your blog. If people find the answer useful, they will buy the book. That is how I do anyway. 

But instead you create a need, they didn’t have to begin with. Stating that there is no easy solution makes them believe, they themselves cannot possibly find the answer. But (my) truth is, they already know, that the answer is simple. They can’t see it, because they are still in the dark, but they know it is there. That is why the expectations to a clear answer is so popular, because instinctively we know, that it is so.

I trust you to have written a really great book. I agree with you on the matter of shielding not being a solution. I am not trying to criticize your book. What I am protesting against is the fact, that you are using and boosting the insecurity of most empaths for profit.

That is just not nice.

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