This is a current example of why skepticism is so very important for empaths to embrace. Today a topic was posted on the Empath Community regarding eye color and the empath ability. You can follow it here. Basically the idea is, that the eye color changes when someone uses the empath ability. Many answers, and yet there seem to be only one conclusion so far, which is something equivalent to “No smoke without a fire.”
And although I already have stated from where the smoke comes, no one seem to care about facts. It is apparently much more appealing to assume, that there is something empath related to the change of color, rather than embrace the fact that our eye color is naturally changing all of the time. Every human being will have different nuances of the eye color depending on several different conditions both physical, emotional and environmental. Every body!
It is not a specifically empath related trait.
If an iris specialist (or what ever they are called) says: “Hm, that’s odd!?” when looking at an empaths eyes during a reading, then yes – I will regard this as an empath trait. But please! If you want to believe in natural things being super natural, please do take the slightest effort of investigating just a minimum of knowledge within the area. When you know all there is to know about changing eye colors, and you are still left with wonder, then perhaps you can search for answers and draw parallels to the empath ability.
But this is just stupid. And I do mean that quite literally.
If we as empaths want to be taken seriously, at least to the people we trust, then we really need to cut the crap and stick with the few facts we actually have. All this search for fantastic abnormalities only serves to put us all in the isolated weirdo box. Isn’t the empath ability amazing in itself?
Do we really have to overdo the miracles?
There is however one perspective, from which we can agree on the change of eye color being related to empaths. And that is the other misconception (in my opinion), that more or less all human beings are empaths. A lot of people, a LOT of people, calls themselves empaths, because they experience the normal, human empathy. And so, yes, when they do so, and their eye color changes, then they may draw that parallel. But the thesis is wrong from the beginning, and the conclusion is so easily dismissed that it is not even worth the effort.
If you really need something amazing to get through the day – find someone you can make real eye contact with instead!
July 5, 2009
I’m adding this one to my “r u an empathy?!” quiz.
Do your eyes change colour:
a) less than mine?
b) as much as mine?
c) more than mine?
if u answered mostly b)… then u r an empathy!!!
In fairness, I too have a urgent need to use empathy as an explanation for everything that demands an explanation in my life. Realising that I was an empath made me very… excitable. And I look back now with embarrassment at how I spammed the forums every day with my excited chatter.
I guess the problem is when it survives a transition from temporary “excited chatter about this new phase in my life” to “this is what we now believe about human empathy”.
Yet when I read it I found myself thinking “People always have told me how my eyes are always changing colour…” which just shows how I can’t even trust my own brain. I’m still at the “Empty Bucket” phase with empathy: where I hold my mind out like an empty bucket and shout “Fill me! fill me with anything that comes to hand! it’s all good!”
And even now I find myself thinking “Changes in the appearance of the eyes are associated with psychic activity in film and television..” which just goes to show how desperately I need to live at peace with both sides of an argument and why I still cant trust my own brain.
July 5, 2009
How could you not fall into that trap, Tony?
You are certainly not the only one who has been through it – I go through it every day just as you, and I actually think the reflections on this is great. How would we learn and experience new things, if we chose to say that the bucket was full?
The trick is just to keep searching for answers. I guess, we should implement a hole in the bucket, so that there will always be room for new knowledge and questions. For me, this post was not about refusing to get an answer about the change of eye color. It was about getting further into it, just to see how related it was to the empath ability.
Not from the topic on EC, but from a previous observation I had made, because I have grey eyes that changes fairly drastically at times.
So I too have been filling my bucket with the same thoughts.
And I kept filling it and found a reliable (boring) answer.
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