Skeptic Spirit

Another FAQ I guess: “How do I control the ability?”

There are mainly two answers to that question. The first one is the spiritual, energy-theory based ‘shielding’, which you will find all over the Internet. The other answer is mine, as I am typing it now.

You already are in control. 

“Oh, but I feel so overwhelmed, I can’t stand it, I can’t find myself… It is a curse, I do not control it!”

Sure you do. You just haven’t thought of it that way, because the first suggestion about ‘shielding’ leads you to believe, that the impressions come all by themselves. They don’t. You do not feel everything everywhere all of the time. It may seem that way, because you cannot feel you, but the impressions you get comes from your own subconscious thoughts about what is even just remotely relevant for you to tune in on. 

Relevance 

That is a keyword for my theory about how you best control your empath ability. I am sitting here in front of my mac trying to formulate my thoughts about this issue. The thing that is most relevant for me right now is my sense of me. So I am relevant to me right now. I have to have a sense of me in order to put my thoughts into words in such a way that I get my message through the right way. But other people are relevant for me as well, as I am writing for those who do not feel that they are in control. So I have these impressions stored in my memory of people I have encountered on the web, who felt this way. 

So my focus is divided properly in accordance with what I find most relevant for typing this post. 

When my own ability exploded one day in january ’08, I could not walk down to the local supermarket without getting knocked out emotionally. It is not because this was new, and that I did not have the right tools for dealing with it. No, when I think back on the experience, it was because I found all emotions around me relevant.

I knew, I had this ability before I switched from latent to “full blown” empath. A long story, that involves other empaths, but quite irrelevant for this topic. Anyway, I knew, but it was still relevant for me at that time to be convinced. And so it was very relevant for me to experience that I actually could tune in on complete strangers, even though at the time I did not consciously make that decision.

I do not find other peoples emotional state that relevant in order to function on a daily basis. Sometimes something comes up, which makes me think: “this is relevant” and I automatically tune in on it. 

Control

If you want to feel that you are in control of the empath ability, you should start by explaining to yourself what you really find relevant to you. You are already making a subconscious decision about it, so why not bring it out of the darkness and redefine your values? 

It is also worth considering, how you perceive yourself amongst others. If you think that you as a person is not relevant, or that people in pain are very relevant, then those are the things you tune in on. Be honest with yourself while making these considerations. If you deep down feel, that another persons anger is relevant, and you do not see ‘you’ as relevant, then that is how you have managed it. But then perhaps it is time to evaluate that as well?

There is nothing spiritual about this, you cannot shield yourself from you. Shielding works in the aspect of you finding your shield relevant. It gives you something to visualize, and that does make you not focus on other peoples emotions. But it doesn’t really fix anything, and you do spend a lot of energy on something which is not relevant at all.

So… Is this relevant for you?